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In the mediation room, Jiang Feng looked at Kang Buping and the others and said: "After my assessment, there are too many problems accumulated between you mother-in-law and daughter-in-law over the years. The difficulty of mediation is high, and a mediation fee of 100,000 yuan is required. Do you want to accept mediation?

You can discuss it first, and then call me when the discussion is complete."

After saying that, Jiang Feng opened the door and walked out.

As soon as Jiang Feng closed the door, Hu Jinhua couldn't help it anymore and stared at Liu Lian angrily, "It's all your fault. The mediation fee is 100,000 yuan. How many years will my son have to work hard to save this money?"

When Liu Lian heard this, her anger surged up instantly, "You only blame me for everything. Is this my problem alone? If you had acted like a mother-in-law, would we have reached this point today?"

Hu Jinhua immediately retorted: "Do you still think of me as your mother-in-law? If you had acted like a daughter-in-law and respected me a little bit, we wouldn't have reached this stage today. In this era, if we were in the past

, a daughter-in-law like you will never get good results."

Not to be outdone, Liu Lian said: "Respect is mutual. If you don't respect me, why should I respect you? You also know that this is a new era. Stop holding on to the feudal ideas of the past. I don't accept that.

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Seeing the two of them starting to fight regardless of the occasion, the veins on Kang Buping's forehead kept pulsing, and he shouted in a low voice: "You two, can you please stop arguing? It's okay to argue at home. Isn't it embarrassing to argue here?"

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Hu Jinhua opened her mouth to say something, but finally swallowed it back.

Liu Lian glanced at her husband, then looked at the crowd in the hall outside through the frosted glass, and shut up knowingly. This was indeed not a place for quarrels.

"I have nothing to do with you. I don't think we need to discuss it any more. I'll go out and pay for mediation right away, otherwise our family will break up sooner or later." Kang Buping said while holding his breath.

After much thought, Hu Jinhua was still reluctant to part with such a large amount of money, and said quickly: "Forget it, you may not be able to save so much money even if you work hard for three years. It is not cost-effective to use it for mediation. Let's go back. Since

She didn’t want to see me, so I went back to pack my things and go back to my hometown in Guangdong Province to live.”

Liu Lian wanted to fight back after hearing this, but finally endured it.

Kang Buping shook his head and said: "Mom, the house in my hometown in Guangdong Province has long been dilapidated and cannot be lived in at all. How can I rest assured if you go back alone? We still pay for mediation. As long as you can live in harmony, I won't work no matter how hard it is.

Too tired."

Hu Jinhua also knows that it is indeed unrealistic for a person to return to his hometown in Guangdong Province to live alone.

After all, it has been decades since the Kang family moved from Guangdong Province to Gan Province. The house in their hometown has indeed become uninhabitable. When Kang Buping and his father were alive, they would occasionally go back and stay at their cousin's house.

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Since their grandfather and father died of illness one after another, their family has rarely returned to their hometown in Guangdong Province. The last time they went back was when Kang Buping got married.

It's okay to go back and stay at my cousin's house once in a while, but it's definitely not okay to stay at my cousin's house for a long time.

Does this money really have to be spent?

It was all the fault of this prodigal daughter-in-law. The more Hu Jinhua thought about it, the angrier she became, and she became more and more displeased with Liu Lian's daughter-in-law!

Liu Lian was also distressed about the money. She also attributed the reason to her mother-in-law, who was also unhappy with it.

Kang Buping had a headache when he saw this. Anyway, he had no choice but to turn to Master Jiang for help, hoping that his mediation would be effective, otherwise the family would be ruined by his mother and his wife sooner or later.

So, he no longer asked for their opinions, opened the glass door directly, and said to Jiang Feng who was sitting in front of the computer: "Master Jiang, we have already discussed it, please come in."

When Jiang Feng entered the mediation room, Kang Buping directly stated his decision, "Master Jiang, we are willing to accept mediation, but we don't know what to do?"

Jiang Feng nodded and said: "As per the old rules, let's do it one by one first, starting with Ms. Hu!"

Hearing this, Kang Buping, Liu Lian and his wife opened the door and went out to wait without Jiang Feng having to say anything.

After they went out, Jiang Feng looked at Hu Jinhua and said: "Ms. Hu, from what you said before, I heard that you are really dissatisfied with your daughter-in-law. You think your daughter-in-law doesn't know how to run a house, and you can't stand her various behaviors.

Maybe your intention is for their good, but from my point of view, I think you did the wrong thing!"

Hu Jinhua was a little dissatisfied and said: "Master Jiang, tell me where I went wrong?"

"Ms. Hu, as the saying goes, 'In the first ten years, you look after your mother-in-law, and in the next ten years, you look after your daughter-in-law.' You must have heard of this, right?"

Jiang Feng looked at Hu Jinhua and said calmly: "The first ten years can be said to be the most difficult time for a new daughter-in-law to need help. She has just arrived, is unfamiliar with the place, and is helpless. The living environment and the people she interacts with are different.

Likewise, she is a first-time wife, first-time daughter-in-law, first-time mother, and everything starts from scratch.

At this time, as a mother-in-law, she should be more considerate and tolerant, and try her best to help her daughter-in-law integrate into the family.

For example, regarding her eating habits, since what you cook doesn't suit her taste and she doesn't know how to cook it herself, don't be too harsh on her when she orders takeout.

In a different place, if you are the daughter-in-law and she is the mother-in-law, all she cooks are local spicy dishes, and you can't eat spicy food. You spend money to order takeout, and she wants to accuse you of spending money arbitrarily.

How does it feel in your heart?"

Hu Jinhua listened in silence for a while, and was somewhat touched in her heart. After all, she had been a daughter-in-law for many years, and she had experienced how difficult it was to be a daughter-in-law.

When she was at her most miserable and aggrieved, she secretly swore in her heart that she would never embarrass her daughter-in-law or let her be wronged in the future.

But when she really becomes a mother-in-law, the conflicts that should arise between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law will still arise...

"Then there's the matter of taking care of the children. This is definitely the number one conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. According to your daughter-in-law, although you did a lot of things during her confinement period, she didn't accept your favor.

Do you know why?"

Jiang Feng didn't wait for her answer, and said the answer directly, "Because you didn't find the right direction in doing things, so no matter how much you do, it's in vain. What you should do at that time is to take care of the children more so that your daughter-in-law can have a good rest and recover."

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Instead of spending a lot of time shopping for groceries, cooking and cleaning every day.”

Hu Jinhua said with a look of grievance: "At that time, the child was little. She would eat when she was full, go to bed, and eat when she woke up. She didn't have to take care of her at all. I tried my best to make delicious food for her so that her body could recover as soon as possible. This

Can you blame me?"

Jiang Feng sighed: "Ms. Hu, this is the difference in concepts between the two generations, and it is also the difference in the times. When you were in confinement, you might not only have to take care of your children, but you might also have to do other things.

So, when your daughter-in-law is in confinement, you finish everything and help take care of the children when you have time. I feel that this is the best you can do. Your daughter-in-law should be grateful to you instead of complaining.

This cannot mean that you are wrong, it can only mean that you have not grasped your daughter-in-law's thoughts.

This principle is the same as cooking. If you work hard to prepare a large table of dishes that the guests don’t like, the effect will not be as good as cooking only one dish that the guests like.”

Hu Jinhua didn't understand it at first, but it wasn't until she heard the cooking metaphor at the end that she suddenly understood.

"Then there is the concept of childcare, which is also an area hit hard by conflicts. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't stand each other's way of raising children, as well as the ideas they instill in their children. Or they don't remember gratitude at all when they raise children well, and only blame and scold them when they don't.

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A daughter-in-law cannot see her mother-in-law doting on her children, a mother-in-law cannot see her daughter-in-law being strict with her children, etc.

This is a problem that exists in many families. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can only be considerate and tolerant of each other. After all, both parties have the same goal, which is for the good of their children."

At this point, Jiang Feng felt that he had almost said it, so he made the final conclusion: "Ms. Hu, in short, you must keep this sentence in mind: look after your mother-in-law in the first ten years, and look after your daughter-in-law in the next ten years. If you help me when I am young and ignorant,

, I will make you old and carefree, if you bully me for being young and ignorant, I will make you old and helpless."

Jiang Feng said this with great force, and Hu Jinhua looked moved when he heard it.

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Chapter completed!