Chapter 151 Friends and connections

Sitting in front of a stone tablet, Fang Jie thought about and sorted out his current friendship mentality while restoring the durability of the Blood Knife.

Yes, it is a mentality of making friends rather than an upgrade route, nor is it a matter of choosing martial arts.

Perhaps this is not worth thinking about and sorting out for ordinary people at all. Just take it as you go, so why waste time and energy thinking about these things specifically?

But for Fang Jie, for an extreme realist, a person who is unwilling to suffer losses and never trusts others first, this is a very difficult issue that goes against some of his principles. Although he is not opposed to being with "friends", he always feels a little awkward and a little nervous, so he has to calm down and think about it carefully and ask why. Only by figuring out these can he face it calmly.

In just a few days, Fang Jie felt that he suddenly had a significant change. In the past, he only thought about leveling up alone and experiencing the pleasure of the game by himself, for fear that others would cause him "trouble". But now, he is always with people every day, and the trouble is a little trouble, but he has gained a lot of benefits and has obtained many unexpected results.

These benefits are not simply how much money you make or what secrets you get, but a very subtle causal relationship. Looking at it alone, there is no big deal, but when it is strung together, it becomes very subtle.

Since there is a benefit, it means that "making friends" has "use value", which is used value. It is not the narrow "use", but a comprehensive range, including both material and spiritual aspects, and even the invisible, intangible but subtly promotes the development of the cause and effect.

"Then why did you always feel troublesome before..." Fang Jie asked himself, then shook his head and smiled. In fact, this question is very simple. Fundamentally, it is because he does not believe in others. This is not a simple sense of belief, but a lack of belief in others can bring benefits to him. In other words, if you believe too much in your own ability and feel that others have no value to you, or the value is not high, you will feel troublesome.

Fang Jie has always believed that the relationship between people is the relationship between exploitation and being exploited, but is it the same between friends? If so, why is his attitude towards Jinglin and Can Jian different from his attitude towards Wangqing? If it is purely for use, why don’t Wangqing help him to instantly fill the disguise conditions? Is it because of machismo or self-esteem? Is it because of the different ideas about Wangqing? Or is it because of self-abuse?

If not, then what do friends rely on to maintain relationships? Is love? Even love cannot last forever, let alone friendship? Is it because I have a good character, Jinglin, Canjian and Wangqing just want to help me selflessly? Or are they full and have nothing to do to come and come to see me as a martial arts waste? Or is it really as they said, I am very interesting and willing to be with me? But where is I interesting? I am too comedy or my personality is too tragic?

For a moment, countless question marks popped up in Fang Jie's head, and even he felt that some questions were a bit funny. After thinking carefully for a while, he gave himself a positive answer. He also made a few "interpersonal use theories" more clearly:

Needs determine value. Whether you have value depends on what others need you; whether others have value depends on what you need others. The higher your satisfaction with other people’s needs, the greater your value; the lower your satisfaction with other people’s needs, the smaller your value.

When you cannot meet the needs of others, you are a worthless person; when others cannot meet your needs, others are a worthless person. In other words, only high-value people can get high-value things when exchanging benefits with others. Your needs can be highly satisfied.

If you want to be friends with someone or make a deal with him, then you must be able to provide some kind of benefits and meet his needs. Only by exchanging benefits and satisfying each other's needs can we establish a close relationship with each other. When you do not have the ability to provide the other person with the benefits he needs, this means that your relationship with him is a "no relationship" relationship.

This is why in general, it is difficult for rich people to establish close relationships with poor people, powerless people and powerless people - to establish close relationships with each other and to become friends, because one of them is too low for the other, and both parties cannot exchange the equivalents they need, and there is no basis for interests.

After analyzing this, Fang Jie suddenly realized why he was unwilling to let Wangqing help him. At first, he only thought that let Wangqing help him was cheating and he lost his pleasure. Now it seems that the essence is that he and Wangqing are only a "no relationship". Although this "no relationship" relationship was priced with 10,000 taels of gold, in the end, due to the huge gap, he felt that he was not very valuable to Wangqing. It was difficult to form the basis of equivalent exchange based on those few words of fooling people, so he avoided it intentionally or unintentionally.

Jinglin and Canjian are different. Everyone's situation is similar. Even though Canjian learned the evil-proof sword technique, but because he had no internal strength and was judged by his master, Fang Jie felt that the three of them could establish a foundation for equivalent exchange. Even if he helped me today, I might be able to help him tomorrow and have the ability to help him. Subconsciously, Fang Jie knew that only by building a relationship between friends could it be long-term and firm only on the basis of equivalent exchange.

Thinking of this, Fang Jie couldn't help but smile. Jinglin once said that his relationship was too closed. In fact, in essence, he was just looking for a more eternal relationship. Whether it is love, friendship or family, he wanted to be fixed and stable. He either did not talk about feelings or talk about feelings. He hoped that it would be a lifelong thing and a firm relationship would be established.

After clarifying the "interpersonal use theory", Fang Jie deepened and reflected on it and clarified his goals.

The so-called "people are divided by groups, and birds of birds of a feather flock together". People are divided by the value of exchange objects. Generally speaking, only when exchange objects are equal, can they have exchange relationships with each other. People with high-value exchange objects will naturally form a close-knot class, and people with low-value exchange objects will also naturally form a close-knot class. People who have low-value exchange objects for a long time will find it difficult to become friends with people who have high-value exchange objects for a long time - because there is no basis for each other's interests, and this basis is: equivalent exchange objects.

No one is willing to exchange a high-value thing with a low-value thing. Therefore, the poor have no rich friends, and the rich have no poor friends.

This is the same whether in reality or in the game. The masters in the game only know how to contact with masters and are willing to contact with masters in their hearts. Even if it is an enemy, defeating the other party can at least bring spiritual pleasure to themselves. It is hard to imagine that a peerless master would become friends with an unknown little person. When Jinglin was the number one master of the Emei Sect, she just felt that Fang Jie was interesting and that she had a closer relationship with him. But she did not regard Fang Jie as a reliable friend as she is now.

And Fang Jie is also very clear that even now, Jinglin and Can Jian just think that Fang Jie is a "potential stock" and will follow him. If he is useless for a long time and has too low value for a long time, these people will gradually become disinterested and throw away the "junk stock" they misjudged. Of course, in essence, Fang Jie also thinks the same way when he sees these two people.

Therefore, Fang Jie realized that only by constantly improving his value can we maintain the relationship between friends in a long and stable manner. Moreover, the higher the value, the more friends there will be. The more friends you have, it means that you can constantly exchange various needs and achieve the goal of maximizing resource utilization.

"Help others and then get help... But you must have the ability and qualifications to help others..." Thinking of this, Fang Jie suddenly remembered the medicine jar. That person is a typical example. While helping others, he is also helping himself. Not only has his skills soon, but he also made countless friends. Fang Jie is even sure that the top masters of various sects must have had contact with him. If the medicine jar raises his arms, the world will be in chaos.

"Dating is exchange. If a person has no object to exchange with others, he is a worthless person to others. Of course such a person has no friends." After continuing to deepen, Fang Jie felt a little proud: "People with friends are valuable people. It seems that I have not reached the point of being useless..."

Thinking of this, Fang Jie was still a little uneasy. After careful consideration, he understood. Perhaps because this interpersonal use theory is too straightforward and naked, he felt that he was a bit conspiracy theory. After all, no one was not very disgusted with being used by others, and it seemed a great shame to be used by others.

But when I thought about it, Fang Jie smiled with peace of mind. In fact, being able to be used by others is a proud capital. Using it by others means that there is a value that can be used, and people without value will not be used by others. People without value are pathetic. People with value with value are 100 or even 10,000 times better than people with value with value of interest!

The so-called "mutual benefit" or "mutual help" actually advocates mutual utilization. The value of people and land can only be reflected by others. People without value have friends, and people with value have friends. Therefore, the richer and more friends are, the more poor people are, the fewer friends are.

Of course, many people believe that friends who do not have the motivation to seek benefits are true friends, or even friends.

However, in Fang Jie's view, this is a very naive and naive view. There are no friends in the world who do not interact for profit. Using each other is the basis of friendship. In fact, there is no need to care that others have the intention to use you. As long as he does not harm others, he is not your enemy. As long as he exchanges interests with you in a way that does not harm you, then his intention is sincere--he is sincere in exchange for benefits with you.

If you ask others to selflessly contribute everything to you and use it as the standard for whether the other party is a true friend, not only others cannot do it, but you cannot even do it yourself. This unilateral requirement is not only absurd, but also immoral. People who ask others to be selfless are often the most selfish people. The loneliest people are also the most selfish people, and it is natural for selfish people to find friends.

"I'm still too selfish..." Thinking of the fact that I counted over and over again, Fang Jie smiled self-deprecatingly after reflection. But then he thought, with his current strength, even if he wanted to make more friends, he would be powerless. After all, there is no use value. You can't always rely on some puzzles to exchange with others, right?

When Fang Jie thought of this, he was stunned and thought to himself, logically speaking, let alone making other friends, it is difficult to maintain these people now, but after these people knew that he was a waste of martial arts, they all said they wanted to help him, which made people feel a little puzzled.

After thinking about it carefully, Fang Jie was the first to eliminate Jinglin. After all, at present, his value is obviously higher than Jinglin, who has been regressing his martial arts for half a year. Jinglin only has the advantage of following him, but there is no harm in not being able to do so. So from the one hand, as long as he is willing, the relationship between the two can be maintained normally.

Canjian was a little strange. First, he had known him for less than two days. Secondly, Canjian learned the evil-proof sword technique. Even if he had no internal strength, he was still a very awesome person. As soon as he met, he said he wanted to help him kill disciples of Huashan Sect, but he accidentally sentenced his master... I believe he was really careless. After the judge learned that he was a waste of martial arts, he immediately said that he wanted to help him, saying that he was just helping himself? Moreover, he died once in the end?

What does help me mean helping him? Can’t he become a disciple again without me? Can’t he do tasks? I, a waste of martial arts, become so popular? It’s inexplicable...

For a moment, Fang Jie was a little confused. After all, Canjian had made too much effort on one hand, and when he brushed the dungeon with Shangguan Haoran and Beggar Beggar, he obviously had a loyal tone. However, since the other party said this, he must have meant something, but it was just not explained. Then let go of this question for the time being.

Looking back at Wangqing. But Fang Jie thought about it, but he didn't see the reason why Wangqing followed him... Do you just think I am interesting? Or do you think my spiritual level is higher than her? Or is it really a bit nervous? This is too unrestrained... By the way, do you think I am the one who wants to find a spiritual sustenance?

Thinking of this, Fang Jie shook his head, feeling that the last possibility is the greatest, but even so, he felt that there was no reason for Wangqing to follow him all night. This kind of follower was definitely not the so-called Three Obediences and Four Virtues, but the following like watching a show as a bystander, which made Fang Jie unacceptable.

After thinking for a long time, but still not finding a suitable reason, Fang Jie simply put it down for the time being and fixed the analysis target on the sun... This person is a wonderful person. Perhaps he helped others just to have a pure spiritual pleasure. Even he himself didn't know this, so there was nothing to say. Anyway, there was no intersection for the time being.

Next, Fang Jie analyzed Tang Ke, Tang Le, Hu Shuo, Bai Ning and others again, but there was too little interaction with these people at present, which means there was no exchange. As for Xue Cheng, it remains to be seen, so it would be better not to mention it.

The last person is the medicine jar. Speaking of knowing the medicine jar, Fang Jie felt that he seemed to be too good. He actually met a top-notch character in it when he went to the Beijing Pharmacy for the first time. What's even more unbelievable is that he casually told a few formulas for drug production and detoxification, and the other party actually said he wanted to cooperate with him?

After thinking about it, Wangqing, Can Jianjian, Medicine Can, and Xue Cheng have some problems. Although they all have their own reasons, Fang Jie feels that his martial arts waste seems not that valuable, and some things may not be as simple as imagined.

But no matter what, since these people have not consumed their own interests and have even been helping them, Fang Jie naturally has no reason to dig into the bottom line. The reason why he sorted out these friends who had had contact with him was just to understand his own value more clearly, be a person who knows whether it is better or not, and a person who is useful to his friends.

From afternoon to evening, Fang Jie meditated while thinking about these issues that seemingly not important, but have an important impact on his mentality and future growth. It was not until midnight that he received a urging text message from Canjian that he woke up. "Many friends have multiple ways, history has proved that it is wrong to close the country, and we have to learn to reform and opening up..." Fang Jie chuckled, looked around, and looked at the countless players sitting in meditating around him, and couldn't help but murmured: "It may not be possible for a person, it may take a long time, but with connections, the ultimate goal may not be achieved... Who says that experts are lonely? Hahaha!"

Thinking of this, Fang Jie smiled and stood up and left.
Chapter completed!